Okay, I have to admit – if this was a course in school, I would be getting A’s. Top marks. Full credit. Perhaps I really should be wearing a neon sign that says “insert foot here” with an arrow pointing at my mouth. Sigh.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR REGRETS
Regrets. Life is too SHORT to have regrets. But what do we DO with the words that we’ve said, or written, and can’t take them back? I agonized for years about things I’ve said that have impacted others. Some memories are painful, some memories are embarassing, some memories evoke such hurt….OUCH! I thought that when I “grew up” that I would behave and act a little more responsibly with my words. But really, do we grow up? Sadly, in some areas of our life, we don’t seem to “grow up”. We just get older instead.
I have always been a spur of the moment type of person….flying by the seat of my pants, saying anything that came off the top of my head. In other words, I do not think things through. I read someone’s comment the other day about words, and what he said really impacted me. Notice I said “he?” Why is it that men are more logical than women? He said, “don’t say anything that you will later regret – THINK ABOUT IT FIRST” dumbdumb!
THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU SAY BEFORE YOU SAY IT
And that is such a profound thing for me. Donna – THINK ABOUT IT FIRST. I have to say that I am really trying to incorporate this into my life. Sometimes I fail, and when I do – I apologize right away. I still can’t take the words back, but at least I won’t continue beating myself up about it. All I can do is pick myself up, set myself straight, and remind myself, “think it through first”.
YOUR BRAIN IS POWERFUL
I am thankful that I have an amazing brain that I can tell what to do, and it will do it. I can, and I will change my habits. I don’t ALWAYS have to spout off, or emote. I CAN control myself. (Okay – I hear some of you laughing….!) It’s a matter of deciding to behave in a certain way, and then doing it. Making it a habit.
So – what have I learned in the last 2 weeks? KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT when I am overly emotional. I know when I am – so this should be easy. And trust my instincts. And really, THINK it through. If it doesn’t sound nice rehearsed in my head, then DON”T SAY IT – EVER!
NO MORE REGRETS!
I am so thankful that I am married to a very loving, non-emoting, logical husband. He helps to keep me balanced, and loves me no matter what. I am truly blessed. He encourages me, and that is what I need. We pray daily together, and I lean on him for support. God has truly blessed me.
God loves me, and forgives me. So, I can in turn forgive myself for the things I’ve said. And here’s to NOT having any more regrets!