Most of us have hit rock bottom at some point in our lives. For some, it happened in our teens. Others, our twenties. Some of us, our thirties. And so on. The point is, most of us have reached it at least once. Circumstances happen in our lives that send us spiraling out of control, and when we do finally land, it’s the bottom. Rock bottom. Rocks hurt. It makes for a very hard landing. But guess what? Rocks are also very solid. So, it makes sense that even though we have HIT the bottom, now all we have to do is build up again. And since we have a solid, rock bottom foundation, why not use that to build a solid life all over again! Sounds good to me!
YOU’VE REACHED ROCK BOTTOM WHEN
- You’re mad enough to kill
- You want something bad enough to steal
- You are suffering a chronic illness and there’s no cure
- You get divorced
- You fight for custody of your children
- You’ve gained too much weight
- Getting out of bed becomes impossible
- You can’t make yourself go to work
- A family member (or friend) dies
- You can’t function in your relationship
- You can’t deal with your children
- You live with someone who is bipolar and you can’t handle it anymore
- You are mentally or physically abused
- You are spiritually abused
- You suffer from depression and can’t get out of it
- You’ve done something illegal and got arrested
- There are many other reasons – put yours here
There are so many other ways we can “hit” our rock bottom. It’s all pain, and sometimes we think we can’t overcome. But we can! If you are alive, you can overcome. Half of the battle is truly in your mind. It doesn’t matter if you have any money or not, it’s not money that fixes our problems, it’s our minds. We need to be able to believe in ourselves, and love ourselves. We need to stop beating ourselves up and calling ourselves names. It is not always our fault. But what we think about IS our responsibility. We can overcome rock bottom by simply thinking we can. Yes, it’s true. If you think you can overcome, you will. Change your mind right now. Life does not have to stay the way it is right now. Time passes. Things change. Hurts can be forgiven. Pain can be let go. Start right now in getting off of your rock bottom by changing your thoughts.
ROCK BOTTOM TEACHES YOU LESSONS THAT NOTHING ELSE WILL
I hit rock bottom in my thirties. I went through a separation and divorce that was really painful. I was the one who moved out, and I was the one who filed for divorce. February 19 was the date in which my divorce was legally finalized, which ironically was on the same day as my ex father-in-law’s birthday. I struggled a lot. My own mother told me when I was separated that I was making her look bad. That alone was cause for me to feel even more shame and embarrassment. I was angry, and even became especially angry at my dad, because he was dead and wasn’t there for me to talk to. Isn’t that silly? Being angry at someone who is already in heaven? I admit those were dark times. I felt that everyone was talking about me. I struggled each and every day to get up. They were very dark, dark days. But thankfully, I had a friend who informed me that God didn’t hate divorced people. My sisters totally supported me, and I was so grateful for their love. And not only that, my mom came back to me months later, and apologized for her words. They were spoken out of her embarrassment on having a daughter going through a divorce, and remember, we were under spiritual abuse at the time. It was simply not okay in Christian circles to get a divorce. You were a failure if you did. So, she was under spiritual abuse, and in turn put it onto me. Yikes. I totally forgave my mom when she asked. The reason for pointing it out now is to show you that it is important to figure out your pain, and then forgive those who have caused it. My ex and I have forgiven each other for the pain we caused to one another as well. I don’t bring up the pain and hurt he caused, and I don’t visit it either. Why would I? It’s gone.
What I learned during those hard times is that I am loved. I am important. God loves me. God cares for me. And I finally just got up out of my bed, and carried on. I also met and fell in love with someone who is perfect for me, and I got remarried. My second husband and I are just a few months away from our 15 year anniversary. WOW! I hit my rock bottom, and climbed up and up and up, and I’m so grateful for those who helped me and prayed for me along that journey, because I wouldn’t be where I am now today if they didn’t!
MAKE YOUR ROCK BOTTOM YOUR SOLID FOUNDATION
Remember, solid rock is actually a GREAT foundation. One person who’s name who you will probably recognize for her Harry Potter series is J.K. Rowlings. She experienced rock bottom in her life, and it was at that point, that she started writing her famous series. Wow. Can you say overcomer? Good for her! Good for us! That gives us hope, that no matter where we are, we can overcome too. It doesn’t mean we are all going to be writers, and achieve global greatness, what it means is that we can all overcome and build a very solid foundation to live on. We have to WANT to overcome, and remember, it’s your thought life that will help to you grow. If you think you can’t, you will fail. If you think you can, you will. It’s your choice! Remember, if you change your thoughts, you can change your life. Don’t beat yourself up over your failures in life. Don’t keep rehashing the past. Forgive yourself first, and then forgive all the people who hurt you and let you down. Then take a deep breath, and start again. Make new goals. Make new dreams. Meet new people. Move. Change jobs. Whatever it is that you need to do, do it. Don’t stay stuck and broken on the rocks. Build your foundation, one stone, and one brick at a time.
THERE IS NOWHERE ELSE TO GO BUT UP
When you hit rock bottom, there is no-where else to go. Well, not unless someone hands you a shovel, ha ha. Seriously though, once you’ve hit the bottom, all you can do is get back up. It takes time to heal and recover, but we are all each capable of doing so – we just have to want to get up. That battle starts in our minds, as I mentioned above. Choose to get up, and GO up!
TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
Mental health is exactly that – our thoughts that we allow in our head. You will never be healthy if you have negative, destructive, or angry thoughts. You need to clean up what’s inside your head, and make positive choices. If you need help, get help. But whatever you do – don’t stay stuck! Attitude is everything, so change yours today, and you will be able to rebuild and go up. Happiness IS an inside job for sure!
A NEW BEGINNING
Even though rock bottom is painful, it can teach us lessons that nothing else will. Most people who hit rock bottom rise up, and overcome. Decide right now to give yourself a new beginning. Forget your painful past. Learn from it, and move on. Forgive yourself first, forgive others, forget, laugh, love, and live a great life!