Yes, yes it is! Why? Because no matter what happens in life, you ALWAYS have a choice about how to react. You can choose to smile, you can choose to frown. You can choose to laugh, you can choose to cry. You can choose to swear, you can choose to say nothing at all. No matter what, your attitude about life is all your choice. No one can make you do anything, or feel anything. Everything that happens to you and your decision to react to that is your choice.
WINNING OR LOSING
I’m just going to take a safe bet here and think that all of us prefer winning over losing. When we compete, we want to win. When we play games, we want to win. When our national hockey team plays for the Stanley Cup, we want OUR team to WIN! We definitely do not like losing. But guess what. In life, there will be losers. And I don’t mean people who are jerks. I mean people who lose. People who didn’t win the race, and came in fifth or sixth. People who participated in a spelling bee and lost by one letter. People who play games, and always lose because their strategy sucks. Yup, there are lots and lots of losers out there. But hey – there’s no way we can always win. And we need to realize this, and stop getting upset when we lose. This is where your attitude is so important. Why worry about the losses, when you can keep on trying?! Don’t give up! Don’t become a jerk, or defensive or angry because you lost. Keep trying. Sometimes your best will NEVER allow you to win. So what? Just trying to do something is an accomplishment. If you know you’ve done your best, that is enough. You may not have a bookshelf full of trophies, but you do have a sense of accomplishment. You’ve done more than those who haven’t even tried.
OUR RESPONSES TO LIFE
No matter what happens in your life, it is your attitude about it that will determine the course of your life. So many of us get caught in always emotionally reacting to everything. It’s hard to be rational all the time, especially for women. We emote. We freak out. We have hormones that make us crazy. But that is not an excuse to emotionally react to all events. We need to learn how to think, how to reason, how to have the initial emotion, but then not allow it to shape or destroy us. Bad stuff happens. It’s still going to happen. I’ve said it a thousand times, life is not fair, and it will NEVER be fair. It rains on the good AND the bad. So, stop reacting, and start choosing a better way to think about it.
There are those who have encountered the most awful things, and yet they recover, bounce back, and move on in their lives. It’s so great to read these stories of how people overcome. But there are some people who remain stuck their whole lives, unable to move on from their circumstances. Please know that every single one of us can change, all we have to do is have a willingness, and the right attitude. Change your mind, change your thoughts, and you can change your life.
PITY PARTY POOL
Okay, I know I’m not the only one who has ended up in the pity party pool. This is the pool we tend to keep climbing in to when we have really rough days. It’s easier to slip down into that pool, and when we do, our thoughts are usually always negative. We feel sorry for ourselves. We remind ourselves of all the things people did to hurt us. We revive our angry thoughts at our family members who hurt us. We remind ourselves of our ex’s, and how much they wounded us. We revive our anger towards our boss at work. We feel unappreciated, and unsupported. These kind of thoughts are deadly, and if we sink in the deep end, there’s no way to pull ourselves out. This pool sinks into a funnel of depression. It’s very hard to pull yourself up and out of the pity party pool, and sometimes we need help, in the form of counselling, or even anti-depressants. But what I want to tell you is that it IS possible to pull yourself out. How? By changing the direction of your thoughts. Attitude is everything!
You need to learn to re-train your brain. You need to refuse to let those pity party thoughts rule your life. The less you rehash painful memories, or wounds, the better you will be. Instead of focusing on hurt, focus on healing yourself. Focus on learning how to forgive and let go. Focus on only allowing yourself to think positive thoughts. Don’t let the pity party pool suck you in.
Click here to see an amazing story of a soldier who is a quadruple amputee. Can you imagine losing all four of your limbs? I can’t. I don’t even want to go there. But listen to his words, and listen to his message of hope. It’s all about attitude. If he can overcome that, then you and I can overcome what we’re facing too. It’s all in our thought processes, and what we allow ourselves to dwell on. Don’t go near the pity party pool, don’t allow yourself to fall in. It’s not really a party, it’s a death trap.
BEING HAPPY IS A CHOICE, YOUR CHOICE!
Happiness IS a choice. Yes, yes it is. No matter how much your life may suck right now, you can still be happy. Even if you are facing a whole long list of yuck, (no job, no car, no money, no spouse, no friends) what you choose to focus on can and will bring you joy. Find something, anything that makes you happy. It could be music, it could be feeding the squirrels at Stanley Park. There is always something you can find that you enjoy. Focus on those thoughts. If you only focus on what brings you pain, you will never be happy. Life also goes really, really fast, so don’t waste years of your life pining for things that may never happen. Don’t waste years of your life in the “coulda shoulda woulda’s”. Don’t waste years of your life thinking about the past, because you can never go back and change it. Choose to be happy with yourself, and your life right now. Choose to do whatever it takes to make a change, and be happy. If it’s a new job, do it. If it’s a new diet, do it. You are in control, you are in the driver’s seat, and you, and ONLY you can make yourself happy. It’s all done upstairs in your head.
WORK ON YOUR ATTITUDE TODAY
Start today, and choose to have the right attitude. Choose how you are going to respond when negative things happen. Choose to forgive, choose to let go of the junk that hurts you. Choose to drop off the pain from years past. Choose to decide to be happy, and live life to the fullest. Life is too short to have a bad attitude. You won’t have very many friends if your attitude stinks. Clean it up, and start by making one small change a day. Write it down, and tackle that ONE THING every single day. Choose not to swear. Choose not to yell. Choose not to finger anyone while driving. Choose not to call anyone names when they cut you off. Choose not to be sarcastic to your kids or spouse. See? There are lots of things you can do to improve your attitude. Write out your own list – you know yourself better than I do.
YOUR GREAT ATTITUDE WILL GET YOU FAR
But only if it’s a good one! Remember, life is all about your attitude, and how you respond to what happens to you. Choose to stay positive, and choose to forgive. Choose to move on, and choose to be happy. You’ll love your life! It won’t be perfect, but we already know that. Who cares. Take what has been given to you, be thankful, be blessed, and pass on the gift of love and kindness.
LOSE THE BAD ATTITUDE
You won’t go anywhere with a bad attitude. Change it now, or stay stuck in misery. Your choice!
THINGS TO REMEMBER
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!
Go forth, and change your attitude TODAY!
Nothing can hold you back, unless you let it!